People often have questions about the swinging lifestyle and wonder if it could work for them. Here are some great words of advice for you to follow and you can have a happy swinging relationship.
The first rule is to put yourselves and your relationship first and above everything else in the lifestyle. Preservation of your relationship is the most important thing. You can always find others to play with one day in the future, but you don’t want to destroy your relationship.
You are a couple but also a team, so only take the next step with people you are both interested in. Neither of you should ever feel that you need to take one for the team. Remember that “No” means “No” and there should never be any need for an explanation as to why. If there is absolutely any reason that either of you want to leave the situation, then leave. Do not ask questions or try to convince your partner otherwise; just respect your partner’s feelings and leave. You can then discuss the situation at a later stage.
If anything in the lifestyle is no longer fun for either of you, then put a complete stop to it immediately. Whether that be stopping the situation you are in, stopping the online searches, or even stopping the whole swinging in general, then stop. Back to rule number one – your relationship comes first.
If your first experience swinging is not so pleasurable, try to work out why that was the case. Discuss it with your partner and think about what you would have done differently if you had your time again. But the best tip is to persevere. There are so many other people out there in the swing lifestyle, and so many other settings that it would be almost be unfair to have judged the swinging scene on one experience. So plan to have another go at it again one day but do not force the issue. But don’t decide that swinging is not for you after one try at it. Effective communication is the key and discussing with your partner how you feel is the best thing to do.
Always remember that the lifestyle is supposed to be fun. If you feel that it is a chore or that you are doing it to keep your partner happy then it’s probably time to give it away. You may experience feelings of jealousy when you see your partner with another and this is totally normal. It is also normal not to feel this way as we are all different.